We all fail at something important in our lives. Whether it’s failing to pass our exams, being rejected or removed from a job, failure to achieve a fitness objective and many other important goals. We may blame our failure on factors such as laziness, incompetency etc. Or we may be expecting failures to happen nonetheless, as life’s all about learning from your mistakes. However a lot of us commonly end up making 2 main mistakes before we even begin.
Common mistakes before starting a goal
Firstly, we start these goals for all the wrong reasons which leads us to the second thing. We end up depending on conventional motivational techniques because we perused a goal for all the wrong reasons. If your reasons for achieving a dream is all wrong, then motivational techniques can’t do nothing for you. What does this really mean and why? Well let me explain:
If your dreams, passion and aspirations only consist of your rewards gained from achieving success, then you’ll find it difficult to put the hard work in consistently. Just because you’re passionate about the end result or the spoils of success does not mean you’re passionate about the craft /job/profession/journey that leads you to that success. For example: being blown away by a businessman’s car collection, or their exterior life style and at the same time having no passion for the art of business itself. You must be passionate about some aspects of the journey or your craft that leads to the spoils of success.
Passion versus Conventional Motivational Techniques
People use variety of conventional motivational techniques such as: watching motivational videos, listening to inspirational music, reading books on positive mental attitude, visualisation of where you need to be etc. These techniques only give you a brief boost of motivational energy. The distractions to counter act these techniques are everywhere and within every moment of your life. Also you’ll always have to rely on these techniques before each work session. Which will destroy your consistency as its usually a gamble if these techniques are going to be over powered by a distraction or a procrastination session. Whereas, if you’re passionate, obsessed or addicted to your profession or craft, then that passion/obsession/addiction for your craft will be an auto-motivator that causes you to put the hard work in consistently. Rather than depending on conventional motivational techniques to motivate you otherwise.
So, the next time you set upon achieving a goal, or passing your exams, or getting a job. Make sure you’re interest in the actual work that goes into pursuing a particular goal. That way you’ll even come across as being passionate in your job interviews, because for once you like the actual content of the jobs or the subject. Likewise, If you’re trying to achieve a particular fitness goal, do the exercises that you enjoy, or hate the least. Also, make sure you don’t take the fun out of it by going too hard and killing your moral. We tend to overlook the fact that we quit in our minds first because we forget the mind is also like a muscle. Just like your muscle, it also takes time for your mind to endure complicated routines. Therefore reduce the content of your routine until you nail the consistency first, or even start working out at home first rather than going to the gym.
The guilt of mixing work and pleasure
Most of us common thinkers assume that, work is not supposed to be pleasurable. Therefore work and play are not supposed to be mixed. Why can’t it be? Just because you enjoy it does not mean you can’t work hard, it’s the hard work that counts… and the more pleasurable it is, the harder you’ll work at it without forcing yourself. Like you usually would when dealing with tasks you have no interest for. On top of that you’ll also be consistent.
If you ask any person that’s successful in their craft about how much they love what they do; whether they’re a sports star, businessman, artists, top lawyers, private doctors, chefs, barbers, mechanics etc… they will all tell you that they’re all obsessed with their craft and gain pleasure from it. Whether it’s the pleasure of hearing the approval of a massive crowd when they’re performing on a stage. Or when they gain a therapeutic buzz from styling hair in salons. On top of that we assume that they’ve made their millions to rest??? They made their millions because they loved their craft/job/skill. That’s why even when they’ve earned their fortune, they still do not rest and are constantly thinking about their next project.