Every society contains common rules and thought processes which everyone within that society follow and implement into their moral code. These rules have always existed and we follow these rules on a daily basis without even realising it. We put these rules upon ourselves when we dress a certain way, support a certain sports team, talk in a certain fashion, have similar interests and we do all of this to fit in and rank well among our peers. They’re quite similar to the concept the psychologists call the “social norm”. However in this post we’re going to discover thought processes similar to the “social norm” concept. A more fitting title for the thought processes we share is going “The Common Thought”.
What are our common thoughts
One of the common thoughts within our society is that:
“the more intelligent you are, the better you’ll perform in your academics and the better job you’ll get in the future” In relation to that, we’ve also accepted another concept within our minds. Which is that, if you’re not that intelligent you can still do quite well through hard work, dedication and by “simply motivating ourselves”. There are also other common thoughts such as (common excuse is more fitting); “I failed due to laziness” or “I failed because I got distracted”. Same goes for any other activity and you’ll find that, those activities also contain common thinking which the majority of the population share.
How do these common thoughts influence our motivation
These common statements and excuses may well be very true, but we can’t just leave it at that and move on.
For example: Let’s assume that someone has failed their exams due to laziness or lack of intelligence. Or someone has failed to achieve their fitness goals because they were too lazy to go to the gym.
In this typical scenario, a lot of us will assume that proper motivational techniques may have solved their laziness. Which would have allowed them to not be lazy to go to the gym and read books to pass their exams. Therefore they assume they’ve gained all the lesson from this failure.
Therefore to fix these problems you’re simply going to eliminate your laziness or reduce your lack of intelligence by simply motivating yourself better to be less lazy. So that you read more books and go to the gym more often. After that people assume that they’ve got all the answers they need. At best people call laziness and lack of intelligence just mere excuses and try to toughen themselves and assume that’s another lesson they’ve learnt. However that’s a big mistake a lot of us commonly make. The real reasons behind our failures are consequently overlooked and we carry on making the same mistakes.
The root cause of our failures & lack of motivation
Rather than just saying that I failed due to laziness or lack of knowledge etc or call them excuses. You need to be honest and ask yourself, why you were lazy beforehand? Why you failed to read the books in order for you to equip yourself with the knowledge or intelligence to pass your exams. Why you keep getting distracted and start procrastinating. even though you try to remove all distractions? Once you’ve ask yourself these questions, you begin to realise that the real answer has got nothing to do with the fact that you’re lazy, incompetent etc. The laziness and the lack of competency are just mere symptoms of the underlying problem. What most of us end up doing is trying to solve the symptoms rather than the actual cause. In order to realise what the route cause is, you have to understand what motivation actually is.
What is motivation
In order to be motivated you need to be walking around with a “motive” or a reason to do something. That motive is usually obsession passion or addiction (explained in more detail in later posts). In another words if you’re passionate or have a keen interest in a particular activity, then you won’t need to force or motivate yourself before hand to do that work. This basically means that: Laziness, incompetency or procrastination will have a much lesser impact if you do what you enjoy… or follow your dreams and passion. So if you study a subject of interest, you’ll get less distracted or be lazy and you’ll be making less excuses of not preparing for exams etc. As compared to if you did something for all the wrong reasons such as a high salary etc.