We’ve all come across common motivational techniques for success. Whether it’s setting achievable goals, positive mental attitude, visualisation, measuring success for positive reinforcement etc. We find that these techniques still do not cure our laziness, focus and procrastination. Sometimes there is a noticeable improvement in our motivation levels but it’s never enough for us to consistently work hard. These techniques become tiring and frustrating when we’re constantly trying so hard not to get distracted or become lazy.
Every corner we turn there is a distraction, whether it’s accidently stumbling across a YouTube video. Or reading something that causes a distracting thought to creep into your mind etc. It only takes that one little distraction. Which leads to another distraction and you’re eventually away from your work long enough to lose your momentum. At this point you’re too burnt out or distracted to use a motivational technique to get focussed into your work again.
On the positive note some of us can claim that every now and then we do get immersed in our work but it’s never enough. It’s usually down to luck that we didn’t come across a distraction during that time. Or due to the fact that the deadline is tomorrow and now you’re rushing your work and you’re motivated out of fear. However there are particular activities that most of us do on a regular basis which we do for hours without getting tired. Those activities may include chatting online, shopping, playing console etc. In those activities the motivation is totally the opposite as compared to when we’re doing something important. This is because we strangely need motivation to stop indulging in those activities.
Many young folks enjoy playing computer games. If we asked these people to walk for a few miles in order to have access to the latest console. Then most likely they’d walk that distance and partake in 3+ hours of gaming. However if we asked them to do their homework or an assignment only for half an hour, or to follow an exercise plan for a certain fitness goal. They’ll need tonnes of motivation for these activities and will instantly feel lethargic and lazy at even the thought of doing such activities.
Yes of course, the joy of playing a console game or going on a shopping spree is not the same as the other activities such as doing an assignment etc. but we can gain a very valuable lessons from this. We often think that since we’re failing to do a lot of the important things in our lives we therefore assume that the cure to our short coming has to be complicated. However the answers are much closer and simpler than you anticipate and are within simple examples in life.
The lessons we can learn from the earlier example are:
Lesson # 1: what’s the one thing that kids don’t need to play a game console which they would otherwise would need before their homework?? Motivation.
Lesson # 2: does time seem to go faster for people who are playing their consoles as compared to doing their homework and assignments?
The answer is Yes
And likewise does time go faster for us when we’re doing our favourite past time activity as compared to waking up and going to work?
The answer is YES.
Lesson # 3 Are we Consistent in regularly partaking in our favourite past time activity? Yes of course we are.
Lesson # 4 We need motivation to actually STOP doing a favourite pass time activity as compared to requiring motivation TO DO something that’ll ultimately pay our bills.
Reviewing and applying these lessons
Lesson #1: It may be almost impossible to find a job that’s like playing a console game and at the same time pays well. However we can still gain valuable info by asking ourselves a related question such as:
Which subjects/jobs/courses/skills/gigs require the least amount of effort for me to force or motivate myself beforehand.
Talent is found in the most unexpected places: deep down you may be a chef, a mechanic an artist etc….
Do you even know that people make money from doing reviews for the latest console games and do reviews for features related to those games on YouTube???? There are so many avenues and opportunities that could almost replicate our favourite past time activates… There are people who are extremely opinionative and spend a good portion of their time writing long winded arguments in forums etc. Maybe deep down they want to write…. it’s up to you as an individual to do some soul searching and find out who you are… and ultimately find out what you like to do.
You can ask yourself a similar question for all other lessons as you’ve asked in Lesson #1
Lesson #2: During which subjects/jobs/courses/skills/gigs do you think time seems to go quick?
Same for Lesson #3: which activities you perform on a more regular basis and are the most consistent with, and which one of those can be converted into a job or a skill. As mentioned earlier: “you find your talent in the most unexpected place”
Finally Lesson #4: which activities cause you to get so immersed in them that you need motivation to stop doing them??
Pick your battles
As mentioned in one of my earlier posts: In life something’s you can change and something’s you can’t. Pick and chose the battles well, especially for the things you can change. Eventually the spoils of success from the things you can change will ultimately open new doors for the things you couldn’t change before. If you can take away these lessons that tell you to explore what you like to do, you’ll make better choices in life. The task of finding out who you are doesn’t have to be difficult and don’t make a mountain out of it. Just for a whole a week or 2, list the things you do on a regular basis, and use those 4 lessons.
Eventually your life will be surrounded by jobs you won’t need much motivation for, you’ll actually need motivation to stop doing those tasks at times.